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very confused

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From: Colette Toach

Date: 26 Sep 2009

Comments

Thank you for sharing a bit more about your situation. Yes, God hates divorce, but He also has given us clear guidelines to follow.

There are only two conditions that the Word gives us for divorce and they are these:

1. If your partner is unfaithful.
2. If your partner is unsaved and wishes to leave you.

Apostle Les shares his testimony on our singles site and I am going to give you the link for it, because I think you will relate. What I said before is true Villy. For you to enter into the fullness of your ministry, you need a man by your side. Either this man must be your husband or a spiritual father.

So here are your options.

1. Your husband needs to become that man.
2. The Lord needs to provide another man to give you that support.

Your next step then is to follow this protocol:

Matthew 18:15 Moreover if your brother trespasses against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone: if he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
16 But if he will not listen to [you, then] take with you one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every [rhema] word may be established.
17 And if he fails to listen to them, tell [it] to the church: but if he fails to listen to the church, let him be to you as a heathen person and a tax collector. (AMIV)

There are three steps here to reconciliation.

The first is to approach your husband (which you have done)

The second is to try and bring another believer into it. If you have tried that and it has not worked, then bring the church into the matter.

If he still refuses to listen, the Word says that you can treat him as an unbeliever. Then you have every scriptural right to enter into divorce proceedings.

Go ahead and read the article by following the link below (copy and paste). I know that this is a very hard time for you and my heart goes out to you. I wish I could say that everything will be alright and that your husband will just become that man you want him to be, but I think you also need to face the fact that he might not.

Do all you can to follow the directions in the Word and then at the end of the day place your marriage in God's hand. He is able to do what you cannot and can lift you out of this situation. There IS hope at the end of this journey Villy and God will turn even this terrible situation around for His good.

http://www.gmr-singles.com/divorce_remarriage.php?format=